This week we end our theme for September on healing and restoration. We have talked about wholeness, forgiveness, and moving forward from past hurts. Now we turn to the final theme: healing relationships.
Our guide is Romans 12:18: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Paul’s words carry both hope and honesty. The call is to live at peace, but Paul knows peace is not always possible. Reconciliation takes two people. Yet he reminds us of what we can control: our own part. We cannot force peace, but we can pursue it.
Think of Paul and Barnabas. Their sharp disagreement in Acts 15 split them apart. But later Paul speaks warmly of Barnabas and even commends Mark. Time and humility brought healing. Their story shows that even broken relationships can be mended when hearts are softened.
Psychology also confirms this truth. Several studies show that how we frame conflict matters. Couples who learn to see arguments from a higher perspective avoid long-term decline. Small repair attempts—an apology, a gentle word—can calm tension. And healing often happens when one person risks being vulnerable instead of defensive.
So how do we live out Romans 12:18 today?
Initiate peace. Take the first step, even if it feels costly.
Reframe conflict. Ask, “What would a wise outsider see here?”
Repair quickly. Don’t let bitterness grow roots.
Risk vulnerability. Speak from the heart, not from anger.
Healing relationships is never easy. But it begins with small, faithful steps. As far as it depends on us, we move toward peace and leave the rest in God’s hands.
This week, ask yourself: is there a relationship where God is calling you to take the first step?
